“Mama, who do you love more than us?” A surprising question, the mother may feel pain, because often the answer does not satisfy the child, especially if he feels that he is less intelligent or beautiful than his brothers, as Sarah Al-Daqn, a behavior modification specialist, explained in her speech to “The Seventh Day” that sometimes the mother has a child from Her children feel that he is her favorite in dealing, speaking, or even defending him when he makes a mistake, and also in many things that she does unconsciously, and the rest of his brothers feel that he is somewhat above them in status.

She added that the truth is exactly the opposite, as the mother is the only one who sees her children from the inside, but she sees the weakness of each one of them in a strong way, and knows the area of ​​​​deficiency in his personality, so to speak, and this feeling may increase for the son, especially because of the lack of beautiful features from his point of view, Or weak mental abilities, about the rest of his brothers, or his little ability to absorb what is asked of him, so the child at this time is looking for an answer that reassures him, especially from his mother, when she sees all that, it must be her favorite, not because he is more expensive than his brothers, but he is the only one who needs Support and double love to support his self-confidence.

trap question

And she continued, when asking your direct child, “Who do you like more of us?” Mostly, the mother’s answer is: I love you all the same, but when the child asks this question, he wants a different answer that is special for him. He is expected to say to him, “I love you, you are the most and you are the best one, and so on.”

Enhance his sense of excellence:

And the behavior modification specialist continued that one of the most important psychological needs of the child is his feeling of distinction, and she continued: “I mean, instead of what I say with your love for all of you like each other, I say with love in you, your tenderness and love for Papa, Mama and your sisters, and with love in your brother that he maintains prayer and love in your sister such and such.”

She added that in this way, we would satisfy their psychological need for excellence, love and justice, and encourage, support and consolidate positive behavior in them, while increasing their sense of satisfaction and belonging to the family. Her children to straighten his psyche and make him a normal, positive person.

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