“I am a university girl who is sensitive by nature and tends to be lonely and isolated from people. I do not like to go out of the house much except for necessity, and I do not like to mix with others. I am not good at dealing with people and this annoys me. I do not find topics to talk about in social events, and I feel that I am in a world where no one understands me. I cannot forgive those who offend me easily, and I do not want to look at the face of those who annoy me or say hello to them. So what do you advise me to do?”

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Dear reader, we conveyed your consultation to Dr. Raymond Michel Thabet, a mental health consultant, who said that treating most problems from a psychological point of view is divided into three things. Firstly, recognizing the existence of the problem. If a person does not acknowledge its existence, he will not be able to solve it, and this matter has a special and important basis in the journey of psychological treatment. Then comes knowing the path that we must take and what a person must do, which is called cognitive therapy. Thirdly, we have to take practical steps to solve the problem, which is called the availability of the element of will, and this is the triangle of change.

And your sincere request for advice is conclusive evidence that you acknowledge the existence of the problem and seek help to find a solution, and this is a positive matter and is a large and important part of the treatment journey.

There is no doubt that life by its nature requires strength, perseverance, will, and striving for continuous development, and whoever is not good at that will be in his place with the latecomers and the sad, and as it was said previously that whoever is not renewed will dissipate.

Man really cannot live alone. God created man and created them male and female to bear fruit, multiply and live the earth. He saw that it is good for man not to be alone, just as wisdom says that two are better than one, and the thread of the triangle does not break quickly, and this means that relationships are obligatory.

Nevertheless, a person must make efforts and possess sufficient awareness to establish healthy social relations and work to preserve them, and to the extent of each person’s energy if he is able to make peace with everyone without melting with them in the relationship, thus losing his personality and his own nature.

And for a person to be fluent in dealing with others and to be tactful in speech and eloquent in speech. This happens with a lot of reading and reading, and for a person to force himself to integrate with others in social events and activities, even if he finds it difficult to do so at the beginning. Then, participation in a cultural club, which is available in all governorates of Egypt. Participation in voluntary activities was found to be very suitable for improving these symptoms.

For a person to remain in peace with everyone, this is necessary for his psychological health in particular and his comfort in life in general, and for this to happen, it is necessary to seek help from God because without God, man will not be able to do anything, even if a person is wronged, it is not right to be hostile to anyone. We must look at these matters comprehensively and objectively.

On the other hand, a girl may have this feeling because of the lack or lack of a sense of self-worth. What I would also like for you is that you never underestimate your self-worth. Sometimes it may be acquired since childhood as a result of socialization, and this is what I expect in a case like yours. Develop your social skills and practice team sports, as this refines the self and conveys to it a sense of confidence while dealing with others.

Finally, you have to look for the positive aspects, abilities, and special talents in your life and develop them. The more a person feels his being and proves his presence in what distinguishes him, the more stable his life becomes. I ask God to help you implement the aforementioned instructions, and we hope that God will grant you success in what is beneficial and righteous.