With the start of the high school marathon, many families begin to establish closed camps and lift the state of emergency. High school is a stage by its nature that puts pressure on the psychological state of the student. What they impose on him increases psychological pressure and nervous tension, and the following reviews “The Seventh Day” the negative effects of those expectations on the psychological state of students and the extent of their impact on their performance in the exam, as indicated by Muhammad Mustafa, a clinical psychologist.

Perfect goals are often counterproductive

The psychologist told “The Seventh Day”: “The state of tension is not a result of the moment, but rather may be due to the moment of the student’s choice in branching (scientific or literary), so the parents impose an undesirable pattern of study on the student, as a result of a misconception that there are colleges.” Top and bottom colleges, but this is in the past. We are dealing with the event of high school exams, so why the tension? Tension may be the result of a dream that parents have that their son is a student in one of the colleges, let it be the college (S), so the dream of the parents here, if it conflicts with the desire of the son, the result will often be counterproductive..

He continued: “Many parents believe that focusing on the result (entering college X) will increase the chance of success and excellence, but the opposite is true, as what happens is that the student’s focus is directed towards the result and not the educational process and training for performance in the test, and because of focus and fear of the result.” The student has a state of anxiety and tension, which in turn affects his cognitive functions such as perception and remembering.

Unconditional love and acceptance no matter the outcome

And he continued: “We live for today only, so we have to leave tomorrow for tomorrow. The important thing is that the student focus on the educational process, by providing him with a healthy and supportive environment that helps him produce and progress, and not be an obstacle for him. I understand that these hopes are the hopes of parents who dream.” A better future for their son, for their son to achieve what they could not achieve, but repeating those expectations and hopes is a source of pressure for him, and therefore you have to be a source of safety and support for him at that stage, perhaps words like: “Whatever the result is, we will not change your value to me.” Or, “I love you because you are my son, that love is unconditional.” A source of hope and strong motivation to move forward.

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