“I suffer from the feeling of wanting to cry continuously, and this happens without a justified reason. My thoughts are always sad and dark, and I have repeatedly thought about getting rid of my life, but my faith in God prevents me from committing suicide for fear of His punishment. I am always anxious and never feel happy. My father and mother died in An accident, since then I have been living alone and tend to isolate and avoid mixing with others. Is there a cure for the state of grief that I am going through, or will I live in torment for the rest of my life?

Dear reader, we transferred your consultation to Dr. Raymond Michel Thabet, a mental health consultant, who said: We fully appreciate that losing parents in this way, with no siblings, is a difficult matter to bear and requires a lot of patience, strength of faith, and seeking help from God, without whom we will not be able to pass the matter, while holding on. Please do not give in to the state of despair, sadness and frustration, because the nature of life is like this. We are all strangers on earth and our life is like a vapor that quickly appears and then disappears. Whoever realizes this fact lives as a visitor in this world, and his concern is to please his Lord with him, develop himself and influence the lives of others during his time on earth.

There are several stages of loss that a person goes through, mentioned by the psychiatrist Elizabeth Kobler in the book Death and Death, that a person goes through several stages after losing a dear person or going through severe psychological trauma. Or loss, then it turns into anger and blame, why me in particular? Why is all this happening to me? Then negotiating to accept the matter, passing through the stage of grief, then accepting, adapting, and completing the path of life.

It is proven that the effect of psychological pain is more harmful to a person’s life and more affecting his health, as the body is easily affected by the diseases of the soul and the wounded soul.

The aforementioned symptoms indicate the presence of psychological depression, but depression also has degrees, as there is the simple one that a person may adapt to, and there are the most serious ones that lead to continuous attempts to think about suicide and attempt to carry it out, which increases more and doubles in women than in men.

One of the positive things in which I saw a ray of light and hope from your letter is your question: Is there a cure for grief and pain? This means that even if the diagnostic symptoms of your depressive disorder are complete, it will be of a simple or medium degree, God willing, which responds to psychological treatment in a large way, and sometimes the person may not resort to taking any psychological medications except in specific cases.

First of all, if there is an effect on the quality of sleep and the number of hours, whether by increase or decrease, and if there is an effect on eating food with the symptoms mentioned in your complaint, it is recommended to visit a psychiatrist for evaluation if the period exceeds two weeks to a continuous month without improvement or worsening of the condition.

In terms of behavioral therapy, one of the most successful psychological treatments in your case is training in deep abdominal breathing, and you can find out exactly how it is from some doctors explaining it on the Internet. A daily session of deep breathing and relaxation must be done for at least a whole month.

I also advise you to practice walking on a daily basis, because it has great benefits for the soul as well as the body, so walking must be practiced on a daily basis for at least twenty minutes, or three times a week for thirty minutes at least, and it has been found to be of great benefit in treating cases of anxiety And dysphoria with regularity and inclusion in the routine of life.

The last thing that I would like to mention is that dark and pessimistic thinking is what leads to an increase in the severity and intensity of the symptoms, so my advice is not to avoid mixing with others, rather you have to mix a lot, because this will speed up the treatment if the mixing is with righteous people and those who bring you closer to goodness and doing the right thing, and oh my goodness If you participate in a charitable, service or voluntary activity, and know that getting closer to God and praying constantly from doing good to others, people will also find a lot of good in it.

So, you must be busy with a daily schedule and avoid isolation from people, loneliness, and negative thinking. Force yourself in the beginning to do this until you get used to it and form new positive habits for your life.