In a brief message with few details and a lot of confusion and perhaps confusion, the father sent saying, “My 12-year-old daughter knew that she loves and communicates with a child like her. Since then, I’m going crazy trying not to act wrongly, but I don’t know how to do the right thing.”

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We presented the problem to Dr. Reham Abdel-Rahman, a researcher in psychological and educational counseling at Cairo University, who said: First of all, I appreciate all the feelings of disbelief you are going through, and the speed of the days that pass, making the little girl a girl at the beginning of adolescence, and in this particular problem I recommend wisdom first. And patience, I realize that her behavior was wrong, of course, but such educational problems can only be contained with wisdom and patience with children. Our master Ali Ibn Abi Talib says: “Do not raise your children as your fathers raised you, for they were created for a time other than your time.” Flexibility in education does not mean letting go, but it means being patient and adopting the requirements of the age in raising our children, in which social media threatens their psychological stability and invites them to blindly imitate others.. Here we must be careful.

You should also know that this stage is one of the most dangerous stages of life, as it is the beginning of adolescence, with which a lot of emotional disturbances occur, which require the family to provide support and containment to fill empty spaces from which others enter.

You, as a family, must also follow up on your children and not leave them on social networking sites unnecessarily, in addition to allocating a specific time for the Internet.

I also advise you to accompany your daughter, as some girls may resort at this stage to emotional attachment to others, due to the absence of parents and their preoccupation with family disputes or tasks and responsibilities, and also because of their desire to blindly imitate friends, such as imitating what her friend does, and here it is necessary for the mother to get to know her friends and their morals.

And because this stage is very important in the children’s life, care must be taken to educate them and guide them towards the right path, and to fill their time with everything that occupies their free time and makes them feel self-confident, such as practicing a certain sport and participating in competitions.

And finally.. whatever happens from your daughter, be calm and patient even in situations of reproach and blame, this will make her reassure you and trust you to tell everything that happens with her and thus be truthful and avoid lying for fear of you.