“When I gave birth to my only son after 3 girls, I did not imagine that it would be the tragedy of our lives. His mother and I have a prominent position in our work, and we raised his sisters in the best way, and no one ever heard us a voice, but for years his situation has changed from bad to worse. He is 15 years old and terribly aggressive He even assaults us and his sisters in order to implement his requests.He also behaves aggressively outside the home, hitting his classmates and bragging with his teachers, although we never treated him violently. It must be implemented, otherwise he will act violently, break and smash the house, or extend his hand on money that does not belong to him, and he will meet our good treatment in the worst way and with his rude words. How do we deal with him?”

Dear reader, we presented the problem to d. Hala Hammad, Consultant Psychiatrist for Children, Adolescents and Family Relations, said: This problem is recurrent and I have met it in more than one case. The problem probably did not appear at the age of 15, but rather began gradually and the teenager became in complete control of the house and everyone carried out his orders out of fear of him.

This boy needs a good psychological assessment to determine whether his aggressiveness and behavior are the result of a mental illness that requires medication and behavioral treatment, or that what he suffers from is a behavioral disorder that needs behavioral treatment.

Giving in to his pressure makes him increase his mistakes, whether in violence or demands. Dealing with him requires calmness, patience, and firmness in dealing with him. And the money he takes based on his actions and not as a result of threats and violence. Because the situation will get worse if we give in to this way of dealing. Its requirements will increase and violence will increase.

We need a family meeting in which a plan and system are drawn up to understand the causes of his violence and set red lines for his actions, punishment and reward calmly and with respect. If he suffers from a behavioral disorder, but if he suffers from a mental illness, he will need medication and possibly hospitalization if necessary.