“I am a young man in my mid-twenties. The problem of my life at the moment is that I love a girl very much. She deserves love, as she is the daughter of a respectable family, with very high morals. I pray to God every day that she be my wife, but unfortunately my circumstances and those of my family are very difficult, and problems have arisen.” Many between me and my relatives prevented me from taking a step towards her. I feel confused and do not know what to do so that she does not get lost from my hand? Because her father is deceased, she rejects me because of my circumstances and because she graduated from university and it is difficult to wait for a long time to get married and wait until my circumstances improve.”

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We transferred the problem to Dr. Reham Abdel Rahman, a researcher in psychological counseling and family counseling, and she said: First of all, I hope from God Almighty to fulfill your wish to marry the one you love and desire. But let me tell you something very important, which is the idea of ​​acceptance. You have to accept the predestination, whatever it is, as they all work for you, and this matter you may not realize now, but with the passage of days you will realize that the prevention was a protection for you from psychological burnout, protection from being in a place that does not fit your material capabilities. Then you feel that you are no longer the desired lover, and then you may see the wisdom of God in the prevention, not all bids are complete in life, there are also incomplete bids that are completed with your satisfaction.

All I want from you is that you accept the fates, no matter what, they all work in your favour. Just be patient and flexible, and strive hard to change these circumstances by joining a job through which you can propose to the girl, and know, my dear brother, that marriage is a close relationship that requires you to assume responsibility and provide a decent life for the one you love.. Otherwise, why would you marry? Marriage is an ability and a capacity that is not only financial, but also family and familial. I advise you to strive hard to find a suitable job opportunity, then propose to this girl and accept the reaction, whatever it may be, while being careful of self-flagellation and satisfactory attachment to others in order to preserve your psychological peace.

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