“I lived very difficult days in my family’s house, I did not enjoy my childhood, nor did I live my teenage years, not even youth, and because I am very beautiful and created, praise be to God, I have many very newlyweds, but because I am very poor, most of them were rich, and either married or divorced, I refused to sell myself in A material marriage, and I had a great ambition in education, but because of our narrow situation I could not continue my education, I went down and worked and spent on the house with my brothers.

After a while, a young young groom, the son of wealthy people, and his family proposed to me very much, and in return, my family, of course, was very excited and agreed to him, and I agreed only to relieve them of their pressure, my fatigue at work, and our poor financial conditions.

I wasn’t convinced by his personality but I said he is young and may change later and I understand him more. We didn’t meet often after our engagement because he’s from another country far away from us. We got married a few months later, and that’s when I found out that he was addicted to all kinds of drugs. I began to suffer from problems and humiliation and tried to separate more than once, and when I insisted on separating, I discovered that I was pregnant. Not only was he addicted, but I discovered his cheating more than once.

I was patient for 15 years and closed myself off without any friends or someone I “favourate” him, until I was brought together by chance with a young man in a literature group and I am very fond of reading. He tried to get to know me, but I refused. With my husband, and although I prevented it, but with time he made me feel that there is hope, and there is another chance for a life to start with someone who gives me security, he is not on the same financial level, but at least I will be comfortable with him.

During the period in which I approached this young man, my husband was completely separated from me due to many problems and drug abuse, and he owned more than one house, so he left me and my son and lived in another house where he met his friends without disturbing him.

This young man started to convince me that there is an opportunity to start our life together, and how to get rid of the invalid marriage in which I live, and gave me a lot of support and assured that he will not abandon me and that I am not alone. I really insisted on the divorce, but I did not get it yet, and at the same time I began to see situations from this young man that alienate me and frighten me from him and disturbing reactions, and he always has reasons to postpone any promises after being addicted to him. I can see now that I have entered into a toxic relationship, its name is walking in my blood that I do not want or is able to overcome, and whenever I cut off my relationship with him permanently and cut off all means of communication with him more than once, he rejects my decision and clings to me abnormally and knows how to bring me back to him to the point that I felt that he was a sick person . My problem now is that I am unable to continue with a suspended marriage, and I am not able to cross this young man. Help me.”

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Dear reader, we agree with you that you have lived through difficult days, and are undoubtedly still suffering. But what is remarkable about all the paths that your life has taken is that from the beginning you know the path that you must take, but, for your lack of support and support, you eventually succumb to what is imposed on you and surrender and raise the white flag and surrender to your fate. You asked for help with your letter, but you don’t really need guidance on a solution but rather a lot and a lot of willpower to implement your solutions yourself.

This is confirmed by Dr. Azza Zayan, a family relations consultant, who tells you that you have already made the right decision by insisting on separation from your addicted husband, who does not meet your most basic needs as a wife and does not provide you with support or a sense of security, in addition to that he is an untrustworthy person and his big mistakes against you are frequent. This marriage was based on the wrong foundations in terms of choice and in terms of your motives. You got married to escape from financial pressures and from family pressure and life with them in which you do not feel comfortable. You didn’t check that the two of you agreed, and you didn’t even make sure of his manners and character.

A large part of the responsibility also falls on the shoulders of your family, who was overcome by greed and did not verify his morals and did not ask about him or his behavior and if they did, they would have saved you a lot of pain.

You were initially on the right track when you aspired to continue your education and focus on your ambition to extricate yourself from bad financial conditions, and it is time to return to the same path. Support yourself by getting a job no matter how simple, it is important that you have an independent source of income. Insist on breaking up with this irresponsible drug addict and infidelity husband, and focus on raising your son.

As for the other relationship, it is totally wrong and you have described it yourself as a toxic relationship. All you need to seriously withdraw from it is to cling to the will and cut off all means of communication and all the loopholes through which it can reach you and make sure that this situation is wrong, not only because of the repulsive behaviors that you began to notice, but because, until the moment you receive your divorce paper, you are a married woman and should not Never get involved in such a relationship. The other reason is that you did not recover, neither from the harm and psychological pain you suffered in your family home nor from your relationship with your husband, and it is never preferable that you enter another relationship before fully recovering from the previous relationship, at the present time your needs and your compass are confused, and you will not be able to know what you really want Only after you have fully recovered from the previous psychological pain.

You can turn to a psychologist to help you overcome all this psychological pain, and you may find help in the mental health clinics of the General Secretariat of Mental Health at the lowest costs. Trust that you have already come the bulk of the way to a solution because it really comes from within you.

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