In a short message not without shock, confusion and annoyance, the mother said, “My daughter is 16 years old. I took the phone and turned it off during that period, so that he would stop calling her, but unfortunately the boy calls, I cut off all ways from her, even the house, she does not get out of it, she tells me that she regrets and will not repeat the mistake, but I feel confused, I do not know what to do?

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Dear reader, we fully understand your shock, anxiety and annoyance, as the girl you still see as a little girl has become a teenager, making her way to femininity and trying, very naturally, to explore the opposite sex, which makes you feel responsible and shocked at the same time, and the first action that came to your mind, was to act Which your mother would have done if she were you, but unfortunately times have changed, and isolating the daughter from the world is never possible in this time, and is not the right solution at all.

Dr. Raymond Michel, a consultant for mental health, family counseling and behavior modification, says that there is no doubt that the behavior of a virtuous daughter needs to be evaluated, but we always look with the family for the correct educational methods and means to deal with adolescence problems, which need more patience and understanding of adolescent behavior so that we can To cross him to safety by first gaining his trust.

Adolescence is characterized by mood swings due to hormonal changes and other psychological reasons, in which emotional attachment to people of the opposite sex increases to gain self-confidence and to satisfy the emotional need to feel loved and accepted.

Through your letter, I see that the daughter has the ability and motivation to learn what is right, so I see and think that your daughter suffers from emotional deprivation inside the house, so I have resorted to looking for him abroad, because the family that gives teenage girls a sense of self-worth and emotional containment rarely searches for someone who makes her happy with sweet words.

The daughter needs someone to satisfy her desire and her innate instinct to feel love, trust and safety, so it must be made clear that the means of depriving her of the phone or suppressing her feelings and locking her up will only lead to more wrong and abnormal behavior, and we believe that the beginning of treatment is to allocate her a special time, preferably in a place Far from home, and you start talking to her without scolding and asking her to tell you about her motives for talking with the children and the extent of their relationship with her, and you should never share the conversation with another person in order to gain the daughter’s trust.

Listen to her and then give her advice and guidance and remind her of the seriousness of the matter from a religious and social point of view. Approach her and praise her behavior. Compliment her when she does well. Follow the daughter’s behavior after that and watch her actions. Fill her with more love, for she does not need a particular boy as much as she needs words of praise and admiration. Let her participate in social activities that satisfy her inclinations and desires, suit her abilities and make her feel valued to avoid emotional void. Repeat the frankness and trust sessions whenever the opportunity arises, and we are sure that we will see the daughter in a better situation after applying the mentioned instructions.

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