Without introductions, we got the question short, direct, painful, and neutral, as if it came out of the hearts of dozens of men or women: “Why do we fall in love with people from whom we are prevented by almost impossible barriers? Why do we love someone who is not ready to give you the opportunity to break the barriers between you? A little reminds you of the difficulty of breaking these barriers? Why is he not ready to exchange the same strength of feelings with you, because he is only afraid for himself of the negative feelings and loss if there is a separation?

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And for all those who suffer from “impossible love syndrome” and the question revolves around their minds, hurts their hearts, and takes them from sleep at night and rest during the day, we searched for an answer, while songs have been saying for decades that “love without hope is the highest meaning of love.” Psychology had another opinion, according to psychological experts. Being attracted to this type of relationship is completely unhealthy, and there are several reasons behind it, the most prominent of which is what we just mentioned, the misconceptions about platonic love and true love that have been instilled in our subconscious since childhood and delude us that love is truer if we have no hope for it to continue and develop Relationship.

Another reason is the emotional anxiety and fear of loneliness that makes us desperately need anyone in our love life, regardless of whether they are suitable for us or not. Another explanation lies in the saying “what is forbidden is desirable.” According to the American psychologist Hector J. Barnes, the more unattainable a person is, the more this increases our desire for him and his value in our eyes.

As for the psychologist Linda Hatch, she pointed to another reason, which is that some people involuntarily search for relationships that are doomed to failure because they do not really want to commit to a real, continuous relationship, and the idea of ​​​​the impossibility of reaching a lover gives them a feeling of safety.

Then comes the most common reason, which is our belief that we can change or fix the other party, which makes us move forward in the relationship despite all the signs of danger that we see and we think that the miracle may be achieved on our hands and we do not realize until it is too late that the time of miracles is over.