“I am a wife and mother of 3 children, ages 14 and 21. My problem is that my husband pressures me to work and dispose of money for him in any way. I have reached the point where he is pressuring me to take a loan and I am a guarantor for him. Every now and then he wants to renew the loan before he finishes and I do not agree.” At that time, and whenever I objected, he would leave the house, on one occasion due to his pressure, I let my daughter work as a kind of pressure on him, but he objected and said, “Let me leave the job or leave the house. I really don’t know what to do.”

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We transferred the problem to Dr. Mona Shaker, the family consultant, and she said: “Marriage is a life that carries pressures and difficulties on its way, and results in children who are the adornment of the world’s life. That is why each of the spouses is called life partners so that each of them becomes a support and a support for the other, but when one becomes a heavy burden on the other, this partnership turns into Hell, and then this weight is transferred to the children, their psyche and their lives, and this is what you are exposed to, my dear.

And she continued: You must clarify the damages to their lives after studying and working. His duty is to stay away from everything that harms him and his reputation, and to reduce these excessive expenses without interest, which affects the home, children and their requirements. I despair of trying repeatedly to do good to the children without going along with him in what he asks for, and not taking any step in making loans and other things, regardless of his reaction.

And she continued: Do not allow him to expose you to physical abuse, and even if he leaves the house, do not care about this and continue in your life with insistence on what you are in order to awaken from what is in it and be careful and involve your children in your steps until you reach the right decision. Evaluate life with it and others, so that it does not end Crying behind bars when you have taken on your shoulders, the children’s future becomes bleak and their reputations bad.

She says: “Look at the matter from all sides so that you evaluate the matter wisely and avoid heavy losses. The future of the children is a trust that you can bear alone, so preserve it. May God help you in that. Fortunately for you, the stages of the children’s ages can help you make the right decision more than your comment because they have passed a stage.” Childhood they can give to get past where you are.

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