“I am married to two women who gave birth to 3 children from the first, their ages ranged between 19, 15 and 12 years. The second gave birth to a daughter who was 30 days old. My problem is that the first wife is trying to distance and create hatred in the children’s hearts towards me and their little sister, knowing that the children are related to me. And with their very sister, I do not know what to do while she is still my wife, I thought a lot about divorce, but I retreated for the sake of the children and in order to preserve their future, their lives and their social status, and because they are in their teens, I hope to benefit from you.”

We transferred the problem to Dr. Reham Abdel Rahman, a family consultant and researcher in mental health, who said: “The first wife’s feeling of anger and her attempt to create hatred in the hearts of children towards you is a natural result of her instinct as a woman who is jealous of her husband, as well as her shock by your marriage to another woman who came to possess the other half of your heart, and this Of course, it makes any woman crazy about her husband and family.

She added, “I advise you not to think about separation for the sake of your children, especially that they have no guilt, and that your first wife’s acceptance of the fait accompli is a matter that may take a long time, and therefore I advise you to be patient and flexible in dealing with her, understand her feelings, accept her mood swings, and not show exaggerated joy in the new baby, Because this provokes feelings of jealousy in her and makes her more angry. Whatever happens, do not let the feelings of anger end years of affection and mercy. The easiest thing to say on the lips of a woman in these times is to ask for separation, and therefore do not give in to your anger.

And she continued, “I also learned from your letter that the children are in adolescence and all of them are males, so the most appropriate method to deal with them is dialogue and persuasion, check their conditions and try to connect them with their little sister, especially since she is not guilty of anything while continuing to reassure them that the new situation will not detract from their balance in your heart, and that you You still retain love and appreciation for their mother, and I also advise you to be fair to your children and to consider the feelings of the second wife so that she is not only a woman in the shadows.

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