Kindness does not spoil.. We asked the girls, what is the mistake that you lived through and would not repeat with your children?
Amman Today
publish date 1970-01-01 03:00:00
Raising our children and dealing with them is not an easy matter, as each of us is responsible for someone who will present it to society, so we are keen to present a normal model, capable of facing society and dealing with it, but sometimes and without our will, we transfer what we have been raised on, whether it is negative or positive to them, but some remain affected Some of the negatives that he may have suffered during childhood, and he hopes that he will not repeat that with his children so that they do not feel what he previously felt or his pain, which prompted us to ask the girls about the mistake that the parents made in raising her and she does not want to repeat it with her children.
The girl is like the boy
Eman Abdul Rahman says that she is keen on raising her children with a sense of equality, saying: “There is no difference between a boy and a girl or a girl and a girl, they are all one and those who make mistakes are punished.”
“Iman” explains that her mother is one of those mothers who distinguish boys from girls. She added: “Therefore, she was always biased towards my brother, even in error, which is what my older sister and I suffered from.
equality in education
She continues: “Now I am keen not to repeat this with my children, let my son help us with the housework and clean his room, and if we need orders from the supermarket, he is the one who goes down, not the girls, I am trying to make him a self-reliant man who is not dependent.”
Al-Hanya, what does the girl do?
As for Fatima al-Zahra, she says: “One of what I suffered most from before marriage was a state of distress that sometimes reached cruelty, on the grounds that raising girls was needed.”
Child rearing
“Fatima” adds, “I do not remember that my mother hugged me before my wedding day… and this was a very painful thing for me, but their view was that raising girls is difficult and needs stress because people say they know how to raise, but pets show the girl’s morals.”
And she continues: “When I was at the university, I was surprised when I saw the friendship between my friends and their families. I was living in this situation, so I try to make up for this with my children. We are very friends who do nothing except when they take my opinion and discuss it. The matters that concern me… Even my decision to go down to work was after a long discussion with them and their father.
Take responsibility
As for Hind Abdel Hadi, she says that the biggest mistake her family made against her was that she did not bear any responsibility in her life, for one reason and that she is the only one with her parents, so all her desires were fulfilled without any effort or a sense of responsibility, “noting that she is currently suffering after losing her parents and she is no longer able to Manage the simplest things or make a decision.
Child rearing
She adds: “Now I try to raise my children differently, I always push them to feel responsible, even in the simplest things.”
Dialogue instead of commands
As for Al-Sayed’s wish, she says: “The truth is that our method of upbringing is completely different from our parents, and this does not mean that our parents were necessarily wrong, but our life as a duchess is different from a time, and what was suitable with us in a time does not work with our children now.”
She adds: “Our relationship with our children is now based on friendship, dialogue and understanding. There is no logic in the matter like it was in the past.”
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